I am so excited to introduce you to my first guest blogger Sumi.
Hi, I am Sumeshnee (Sumie) Reddy
An extrovert, with introverted habits! I love people, expressing myself through my writing, self-proclaimed coffee-connoisseur (see: Addict) and I love God!
Please check out my recently published book:
“Embracing Relationship, Rejecting Religion: Going beyond the superficiality of religious practice and embracing a more intimate walk with God “. (Amazon).
You can check out more of my blogs here: https://sumeshneereddy.wordpress.com/
REJECTING REJECTION FOR GOOD.
Ever experienced rejection? Ever felt hurt, looked aside or passed on? It happens. This life we live isn’t filled with a bunch of perfect parents/friends/co-workers etc. It is filled with very real people, who come with their own damage, hurts and insecurities.
Very real people, who most of the time (lets face it) have their own concerns and a million things to think about, problems to solve, tasks to carry out. People, generally are not out to ‘get you’ or make you feel less worthy. Yet somehow, sometimes they can.
Your reaction is key to making the difference here.
What is rejection? Well it’s defined as the refusal or unacceptance of something/someone. I am quite sure, we have all experienced this in some way. It isn’t exactly something that we celebrate, being rejected. Imagine professing your love to someone, only to be rejected by them?
So, how do we deal with rejection having a hold over us, as I believe a lot of our fears are tied to the root of rejection? We have that great book in the making, or a great artwork we have completed, but we never submit that book, or the artwork. We don’t venture forth in our dreams and aspirations because, if anything, the past has taught us, failure is around the corner, so why bother to try?
This is why we don’t pursue that relationship. The fear of rejection. The fear of failure. Fear.
As believers, however let us look at what the word says about rejection.
In Isaiah 49:15 (NIV) we read, “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!”
God never has and never will reject us. That should be our starting point. Even if someone as close as a parent, or family may reject you, this is not a reflection of your true worth.
“Even if someone as close as a parent, or family may reject you, this is not a reflection of your true worth.”
Psalm 27:10 continues, “Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me.”
I believe that these examples were used to show us, that if even those closest to us, whose roles were to protect us and care for us, to accept us, that even if they failed us, God would take care of us.
I know that many people were shaped by their pasts and hurts that they experienced through parents who also had their own flaws and shortcomings. However, the truth is that all those lies, all the pain intended toward you, by the enemy, does not have to be something that you face every day, by yourself.
God has a good plan for your life, one free from rejection/hurt and pain. (Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us of this)
As part of the counselling I did with Olga, one of the most important things she taught me was that when any incorrect thoughts come I should do the following:
- Recognize them
- Reject them and
- Replace them with the Word of God.
This is something I still try to practice. Unless we change our focus, we will forever fall into the trap of offense and feeling rejected and abandoned. The root of rejection lies in fear. We need to allow God to help us, to uproot that bad thing from our lives and to plant a new tree. One that does not allow rejection to bear its sad and bitter fruit.
Romans 8:31 reminds us that, “If God is for us, who can ever stand against us?” (My paraphrase)
Yes, there will be times where people and situations will make you aware of being “rejected’”. This could be in your own head and other times, it could also be very real. So, what should our response be to this?
Jesus encouraged us to pray for our enemies, to wish good things upon them and not evil things. He encouraged us to love them and if they came to us, looking for help, to help them. You, see, Jesus wanted us to step away from calling these people our “enemies” through right actions and more importantly right thoughts toward them.
You won’t be able to get along with everyone and be best friends with the whole world, even as a Christ-follower, and that’s ok. God is ok with that. Even Jesus had only 3 closest friends, (James, John and Peter) whom he took up onto the mountain, to see the Transfiguration. He trusted them.
Beloved, don’t put your trust in the wrong places. Place your trust in Jesus and let Him lead you as to where you can sow your seed. He knows how precious your seed is. He knows how precious you are to him, allow him to protect you, and to protect your heart.
Take all your expectations to God, not to any people and you will never have to fear rejection again.
“My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him.” (Psalm 62:5)
As a Christian rapper, Lecrae, so aptly put it once…
Even when trials come and people reject and disappoint you, you will be able to take your heart to Jesus, whom you can trust and are guaranteed that He will never let you down. He will never turn you away. He never rejects you at your time of greatest need.
Remember, and rather reflect on the words that Jesus speaks over you today and every day, “having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, 6 to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He [a]made us accepted in the Beloved.” Ephesians 1:5-6
You are, and will forever be, Accepted in the beloved!
Further resources to help you with letting go of rejection:
- Barry Bennett “Getting healed from bruises (Inner healing)” Online. Found at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5zb95FM6Pac
Accessed on: 07/08/2018
- Barry Bennett, “The power of the Spirit of God and Expectations” Online. Found at:
Accessed on 07/08/2018